I am who I am, like me, love me, take me, leave me. Know that I am true friend to the end & ask for nothing in return except two things; don’t hurt or don’t use me.
The cool wind is blowing through the open kitchen door while I whisk butter, sugar, eggs etc to make some cupcakes. I know it seems cupcakes is my go to thing. I don’t even know why considering I am a terrible cake maker. But today I want to make some special cupcakes for some special friends.
Friends who are supportive and who get the meaning of friendship. You must wonder why I am ranting on friendship again, this is because I have decided I want to keep some friends in my life, while I want to distance myself from some so-called friends.
Let me give the back story to this…if you are still here.
A friend I have, lets call her C, always seems to have a tendency to cancel on everything she plans. She calls/texts me and says, let’s have a drink, coffee, dinner, walk.. no matter what it would be and I foolishly agree. Always under the notion that I need to give people a chance. However, without a doubt, she would cancel on me. I have finally decided, its time to cut the cord and let that friendship go. The straw that broke the camels back, well more like my back, was when she called/text me asking me to meet her for beer at the brewery 2 blocks from my apartment. I agree, despite it being a day when I had a lot going on. Against my better judgement, I said yes, I would do it. However I never near from her….no cancellation, no call, nothing.
She finally contacts me and says she forgot to send me a message when she got there, however suggests we should meet in 02 days…..and of course I said ok, hoping, against hope that she will not do the same.
So here I am in the kitchen baking cupcakes, because, you guessed it, she did cancel on me again.
The cupcakes are not a way to console myself, but a way to thank the friends I have for being there for me, for being supportive and for always following through and for not being flaky.
This year more than others has been a true test on friendships, I have been stabbed in my heart, my back, my sides by people masquerading as friends. I no longer need that type of friendship. I want friends I can call at any time of day, who will lend me their shoulders to cry on, who will help and support me and understand that loyalty is part of friendship, that is the type of friend I want, because that is the type of friend I am.
I have a earlier post on this topic check it out here.
So I finish my cupcakes and head out to give it to those I call friends, the people who have consoled me when my heart was broken, those who have celebrated my milestones and those who cheer me on no matter what I take on….those are my friends.
To my friends who live across the world or the country, I am sorry I can’t hand deliver you a cupcake, but thank you for your friendship, support, words of encouragement, endless conversations… it means so much to me, my life would not be the same without any of you.
Have you had any bad friend experiences, I would love to hear your stories.
“Hard times will always reveal true friends”