Friends will be friends

I am who I am, like me, love me, take me, leave me.                                                                 Know that I am true friend to the end & ask for nothing in return except two things; don’t hurt or don’t use me.


The cool wind is blowing through the open kitchen door while I whisk butter, sugar, eggs etc to make some cupcakes. I know it seems cupcakes is my go to thing. I don’t even know why considering I am a terrible cake maker. But today I want to make some special cupcakes for some special friends.

Friends who are supportive and who get the meaning of friendship. You must wonder why I am ranting on friendship again, this is because I have decided I want to keep some friends in my life, while I want to distance myself from some so-called friends.

Let me give the back story to this…if you are still here.

A friend I have, lets call her C, always seems to have a tendency to cancel on everything she plans. She calls/texts me and says, let’s have a drink, coffee, dinner, walk.. no matter what it would be and I foolishly agree. Always under the notion that I need to give people a chance. However, without a doubt, she would cancel on me.  I have finally decided, its time to cut the cord and let that friendship go. The straw that broke the camels back, well more like my back, was when she called/text me asking me to meet her for beer at the brewery 2 blocks from my apartment. I agree, despite it being a day when I had a lot going on. Against my better judgement, I said yes, I would do it. However I never near from her….no cancellation, no call, nothing.

She finally contacts me and says she forgot to send me a message when she got there, however suggests we should meet in 02 days…..and of course I said ok, hoping, against hope that she will not do the same.

So here I am in the kitchen baking cupcakes, because, you guessed it, she did cancel on me again.

The cupcakes are not a way to console myself, but a way to thank the friends I have for being there for me, for being supportive and for always following through and for not being flaky.

This year more than others has been a true test on friendships, I have been stabbed in my heart, my back, my sides by people masquerading as friends. I no longer need that type of friendship. I want friends I can call at any time of day, who will lend me their shoulders to cry on, who will help and support me and understand that loyalty is part of friendship, that is the type of friend I want, because that is the type of friend I am.

I have a earlier post on this topic  check it out here.

So I finish my cupcakes and head out to give it to those I call friends, the people who have consoled me when my heart was broken, those who have celebrated my milestones and those who cheer me on no matter what I take on….those are my friends.

To my friends who live across the world or the country, I am sorry I can’t hand deliver you a cupcake, but thank you for your friendship, support, words of encouragement, endless conversations… it means so much to me, my life would not be the same without any of you.

Have you had any bad friend experiences, I would love to hear your stories.

 “Hard times will always reveal true friends”

White Chocolate Pistachio Cupcakes

White Chocolate Pistachio Cupcakes


About my random musings

I am originally from South East Asia and I moved to the US about 15 years ago to follow my heart. My heart has since been broken a few times, but I continue to be on journey of trying to mend it. I could talk about running, baking or writing in a small crowd, but put me in a room full of strangers and I will be the one standing in a corner people watching. When I am not writing or running, I would be in my kitchen, flour strewn all over the kitchen counters, music playing in the background and me just rolling and folding dough, excited about what my creation will turn out to be. Besides that I love passionately, when I love, I give it my all, not always a good thing, but that is who I am. I jump both feet in and sometimes I come out with regrets but having learnt a lesson. I believe everything happens for a reason and this is my place to share bits and pieces of my life, my adventures and sometimes misadventures. Hope you enjoy reading my stories as much I enjoy sharing them with you.
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6 Responses to Friends will be friends

  1. Jim says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed Tania! Wish that you could mail cross country!



  2. I really liked this, especially when you said you were cutting the cords with one certain friendship. I did that this year too, or rather last year. But this year has also been a test for some friendships too and in some way the friends who stayed with me through thick and thin are still here with me. 🙂

    I posted something about an end to a frienship in my blog too, if you want you can read it and tell me what you think of it.



    • I am sorry that you too have had a bad experience with friendship. I suppose not everyone knows how to be a true and loyal friend. We have to keep and appreciate those friends who know the meaning of it.
      Thanks for the follow. I will definitely check your blog too, thank you again for reading and commenting.


  3. Chandani says:

    Wow the cupcakes look delicious. True about so called friends. I dont think they qualify to be called friends really, more acquaintances.


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